Pain is the most common illness
experience on the planet, yet those that suffer are often treated poorly
and endure stigma for feeling pain, which is a normal human emotion and
reaction, like cause and effect. When you stub your toe, you yell, Ow!
and feel pain. However, when pain is emotional, mental and spiritual;
society tends to view pain differently.
Known as the dark night of the soul, the storm, the suffering, serves a purpose.
It endows you with vital resources for personal growth. The happiest
people are those who have undergone hardship to emerge with deep wisdom
to share with others, your response to hardship is measured by your
attitude, and mental resilience
and how you interpret how events shape your life. There are only two
choices when facing hardships: rise to the challenge and overcome it, or
retreat into despair.
The Centre for Pain Research at the University of Bath
and Professor Chris, Director of the Centre, present another way to
look at pain by asking, What is the point of pain? The Centre states, we
are foolish to think that modern science can banish pain altogether. It
is designed to be protective, an alarm system.
Suffering affects both personal and
professional lives and when not dealt with, pain negatively affects
well-being. If you are not going through some form of suffering now,
chances are someone close to you is. Therapist Dr Todd Hall speaks about
the myths, truths and growth in suffering by posing the question: ‘How
do you suffer well?’ In other words, how do you grow through suffering?
Suffering
initiates a search for significance. It is important to make sense of,
and find meaning and purpose in suffering and growing past limits
creates vulnerability. We all need one another and nothing is certain or
uncertain, they are both illusions. Humans cannot predict exactly what
is going to occur so letting go of sureness of an outcome brings
vulnerability.
Sharing experiences and emotions is healthy.
When you suffer, you need to talk about your experience, and part of
becoming a loving person leads to receiving love well so when suffering
appears, and one chooses to grow through suffering, sensitivity and
empathy occur. You are no longer lost in your own pain, rather, quick to
help others get through their own suffering. You have to process your
own pain enough to be able to focus on others in order to respond with
compassion.
Have you heard of The ACE Test or Adverse Childhood Experiences Test?
There are 10 quick questions about adverse childhood experiences that
link to adult conditions, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. The
purpose for this test is to show you your own self-efficacy and
resilience in spite of the trauma you experienced.
Once you get your score, pay attention to your suffering and think: I
have endured a lot of suffering, and in that pain, here I am, existing
and happy, successful and doing, creating and sharing, loving and living
and become grateful for the experiences because without them, you would
not be the person you are right now, beautiful and empowered.
Instead of thinking of yourself as a victim, think of yourself as a survivor. You
may never know how powerful your words and actions are, or ever realise
the impact they make on other’s lives. Empowerment is an unstoppable
force for good. A few words from a loved one or a stranger can change
the way you think and proceed.
Buddha stated: Bliss is found when one
lets go of satisfying personal, material and not true needs, and
instead, allows life to simply flow.
In
the words of Helen Keller, character cannot be developed in ease and
quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul is
strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
Listen here: https://soundcloud.com/susan-marie/20-the-human-condition-with-susan-marie-pain-suffering-growth-empowerment-ace-test
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute audio series featuring
me, you and a conversation about everyday experiences, made simple.
The
human condition is defined as "the characteristics, key events, and
situations which compose the essentials of human existence, such as
birth, growth, emotionality, aspiration, conflict, and mortality".
Episode #20
covers pain, suffering, growth and empowerment. The Four Noble Truths
are discusses, along with the ACE test and how the dark night of the
soul, the storm, the suffering, serves a purpose.
References:
The Painful Part of the Human Condition
Eight Ways You Can Grow Through Suffering
ACE Test
Peace,
Sue
Listen here: https://soundcloud.com/susan-marie/19-the-human-condition-with-susan-marie-boundariestoxicity-boundary-awareness-exercises
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute
audio series featuring me, you and a conversation about everyday
experiences, made simple.
The human condition is defined as "the
characteristics, key events, and situations which compose the
essentials of human existence, such as birth, growth, emotionality,
aspiration, conflict, and mortality".
Episode #19
covers setting boundaries, dealing with toxicity, and two simple
boundary awareness exercises, along with links to printable boundaries
worksheets that can help you set healthy boundaries in all aspects of
your life, as well as links to free online courses for creating a better
life, Live a Brighter Life, and setting healthy boundaries, Train the Trainer, that can help yourself and others by being an advocate for learning and teaching positive boundaries.
Resources:
How to Be Strong While Still Being Gentle: indranislight.org/category/buildin…lthy-boundaries/
What are Personal Boundaries?: www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/bou…n-printout.pdf
Setting Healthy Personal Boundaries: www.recoveryeducationnetwork.org/uploads/…__1_.pdf
Building Better Boundaries: cloudfront.ualberta.ca/-/media/medic…esfeb2011.pdf
Drawing Effective Personal Boundaries: www.liveandworkonpurpose.com/files/Boundaries.pdf
Live a Brighter Life Free Course: indranislight.org/engage/intro-course-live/
Train the Trainer Free Course: indranislight.org/engage/train-the-trainer-online/
Peace,
Susan Marie
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute audio
series featuring me, you and a conversation about everyday experiences,
made simple.
The human condition is defined as "the
characteristics, key events, and situations which compose the essentials
of human existence, such as birth, growth, emotionality, aspiration,
conflict, and mortality".
Episode #18
covers the weight of being human, weightlessness, existential therapy,
being and nothingness and finding enlightenment in everyday experiences
with personal experience.
Listen Here: https://soundcloud.com/susan-marie/18-the-human-condition-with-susan-marie-the-weight-of-being-human-with-personal-experience
Resources:
Theory and Practice of Counseling and Psychotherapy by Gerald Corey:
yuliaaziz09.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/t…erapy.pdf
Being and Nothingness by Sartre:
www.the-philosophy.com/being-nothing…rtre-analysis
Tim Denning: The Only Rules for Being Human:
medium.com/the-mission/the-onl…-human-dc8a12f932e2
Jack Kerouac: The Golden Eternity:
www.brainpickings.org/2014/03/12/jac…lden-eternity/
Peace,
Susan Marie
This is a special episode of 20 minutes with
demonstrations of sound, music, lyrics, and tone for you to experiment
with. This podcast will change from every Sunday to every Wednesday
forward.
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute audio
series featuring me, you and a conversation about everyday experiences,
made simple.
The human condition is defined as "the
characteristics, key events, and situations which compose the essentials
of human existence, such as birth, growth, emotionality, aspiration,
conflict, and mortality".
Episode #17
covers the affect of music on human behavior and mood with scientific
studies and live sound demonstrations, including musical homework for
you. I have a cool demonstration.
Let’s listen to a few tones, lyrics,
music, and nature sounds and see how that makes us feel? I will play one
sound, allow a short time to absorb the sound and play another. There
will be 7 or 8 diverse sounds, music and lyrics. As you listen, keep
that emotion in your mind, recall exactly how that single sound, voice,
lyrics, or music made you feel mentally, emotionally and physically.
Ready?
Resources:
Two types of peak emotional responses to music: The psychophysiology of chills and tears:
www.nature.com/articles/srep46063
Why Some Songs Make Us Cry:
www.nbcnews.com/better/health/why…us-cry-ncna784801
How Does Music Affect You?: effectsofmusicinquiry.weebly.com/music-an…ood.html
Can Deaf People Hear Music?:
assistivetechnologyblog.com/2016/06/can…er-yes.html
15
seconds of Music/Lyrics/Score Fair Use © Lenny Revell, Blake Shelton,
Tupac, Adele, Drake, Terry Jacks, Florence and the Machine, Bloodspot,
Beatles, Rage Against the Machine.
Peace,
Susan Marie
Listen Here: https://soundcloud.com/susan-marie/16-the-human-condition-with-susan-marie-what-is-pride-gender-and-sexual-orientation
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute
audio series featuring me, you and a conversation about everyday
experiences, made simple.
The human condition is defined as "the
characteristics, key events, and situations which compose the
essentials of human existence, such as birth, growth, emotionality,
aspiration, conflict, and mortality".
Episode #15
covers pride, gender and sexuality, focusing on the reason for Pride
Month, Stonewall, the Pride Flag, history and several films and
documentaries, terminology associated with the spectrum, including
becoming involved with PFLAG. June is Pride Month.
Resources:
PFLAG: pflag.org/
Gender Spectrum definitions: www.genderspectrum.org/quick-links/u…nding-gender/
Gender: The Spaces Between: www.cbsnews.com/video/gender-the-space-between/
Gender Revolution: www.netflix.com/title/80186731
Queer Eye: www.netflix.com/title/80160037
Queer as Folk: www.hulu.com/series/queer-as-fo…-bd62-fbc6acc961b7
Milk: www.netflix.com/title/70100084
Dallas Buyers Club: www.netflix.com/title/70275751
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Susan Marie
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute
audio series featuring me, you and a conversation about everyday
experiences, made simple.
The human condition is defined as "the
characteristics, key events, and situations which compose the essentials
of human existence, such as birth, growth, emotionality, aspiration,
conflict, and mortality".
Episode #14 covers What is Death? Why Do
We Fear It? with a short question demonstration followed by learning
how to do the 9 point death meditation.
Listen here: https://soundcloud.com/susan-marie/14-what-is-death-why-do-we-fear-it-9-point-death-meditation-demonstration
Resources:
9 Point Death Meditation: https://kadampa-center.org/sites/default/files/DeathHO5.pdf
Is Not How You Die, but How You Live That Matters: https://blog.liberationist.org/is-not-how-you-live-but-how-you-die-that-matters-f1ddcaac1ea2
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Episode #15 covers the
Science, Psychology, Philosophy and Emotionality of Dreams with dream
demonstrations and simple self experiments to test dream latency, and
learn how to start a dream journal. I share personal experience with
nightmares.
Listen here: https://soundcloud.com/susan-marie/15-the-human-condition-with-susan-marie-psychologyemotionality-of-dreams-with-demonstration
Resources:
The Science Behind Dreaming: www.scientificamerican.com/article/the…d-dreaming/
Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: Dreams & Dreaming: plato.stanford.edu/entries/dreams-dreaming/
Sleep & Dreaming Experiments: faculty.washington.edu/chudler/chsleep.html
Printable Dream Journal: faculty.washington.edu/chudler/pdf/dreamjj.pdf
Printable Sleep Journal: faculty.washington.edu/chudler/pdf/sleepjj.pdf
Sit back, relax and enjoy.
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Music, and subscribe to my weekly newsletter with audio:
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Susan Marie
Listen here: https://soundcloud.com/susan-marie/13-the-human-condition-with-susan-marie-emotionality-skills-to-communicate-effectively-self-assessment
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute audio
series featuring me, you and a conversation about everyday experiences,
made simple.
The human condition is defined as "the
characteristics, key events, and situations which compose the essentials
of human existence, such as birth, growth, emotionality, aspiration,
conflict, and mortality".
Episode #13
covers emotionality, skills to communicate effectively, recognizing
your stress levels, and a simple self-check assessment on your style of
communication, what that implies and how to improve the way you
communicate.
Resources:
Mind Tools Communication Self-Assessment: www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCS_99.htm
Sit back, relax and enjoy.
I rely on your feedback, so hit me up.
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Listen here:
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute audio
series featuring me, you and a conversation about everyday experiences,
made simple.
The human condition is defined as "the
characteristics, key events, and situations which compose the essentials
of human existence, such as birth, growth, emotionality, aspiration,
conflict, and mortality".
Episode #12 covers the human spirit, the human soul, perseverance & mental health with a personal touch.
Resources:
Dr. Lorenzo Pace: lorenzopace.com/triumph-of-the-human-spirit/
24/7 Mental Health Resources: www.nami.org/Find-Support/NAMI-…HelpLine-Resources
Sit back, relax and enjoy.
I rely on your feedback, so hit me up.
Please
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Music, and subscribe to my weekly newsletter with audio: suemarie.substack.com/
Peace,
Susan Marie
Listen here: https://soundcloud.com/susan-marie/11-emotional-intelligence-understanding-practice-demonstration-assessment
The Human Condition is a weekly 10-12 minute audio series featuring me, you and a conversation about everyday experiences, made simple.
The human condition is defined as "the characteristics, key events, and situations which compose the essentials of human existence, such as birth, growth, emotionality, aspiration, conflict, and mortality".
Episode #11 covers Emotional Intelligence: Understanding, Acceptance and Empowerment, the Emotion Wheel, a practice, demonstration and a film.
Resources:
The Emotion Wheel: What is It and How to Use it? [+PDF]: positivepsychologyprogram.com/emotion-wheel/
Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions: www.6seconds.org/2017/04/27/plutc…del-of-emotions/
Emotional Intelligence Assessment: www.ihhp.com/free-eq-quiz/
5 Simple Lessons for Social and Emotional Learning for Adults: www.edutopia.org/blog/five-social…ts-elena-aguilar
Inside Out (film trailer): www.youtube.com/watch?v=yRUAzGQ3nSY
Sit back, relax and enjoy.
I rely on your feedback, so hit me up.
Please share, subscribe and follow on iTunes, YouTube, Soundcloud, Google Play Music, and subscribe to my weekly newsletter with audio: suemarie.substack.com/
Peace,
Susan Marie
